You don’t have to work for everything!

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So, I have said over and over again that you don’t have to work for everything where God is concerned. I just believe ” I don’t have to work for everything I’ll ever get”. And before you conclude, let me quickly point out that I am not in any way a lazy person. At least, I don’t consider myself a lazy bone.

Let me put my thoughts in context. Lets say you’re a fresh graduate and you are already discounting yourself because you didn’t finish with popular grades — you finished with a 2.2. And the last straw that broke the camels back is this ‘you don’t know anyone – you are not connected’.

Let me encourage you with a little story, you see I do not believe I am the smartest human being, definitely not the smartest among my peers. But honestly, I haven’t had to ‘work’ for everything I have got, to be very honest. Like you I finished school with a 2.2 and I wasn’t dull. Lol. Guess I didn’t start out well. Anyways, after grad I became worried that I wouldn’t get a job. So I prayed and prayed that God please help me. I don’t want to sit at home for a day. Guess what? When I went for my first interview ever, nobody asked for my grade. I only wrote a test and God helped me — I passed.

Second scenario, during NYSC, I needed a phone badly and I couldn’t afford one. Was earning 25k then. I was sad. Really sad. But I decided to gist God about the problem and it went something like ‘Father, I need a phone and I can’t afford one but I know you can so I am asking you’. I vividly remember I was asking God for a certain bulky Nokia phone and somehow God prompted me to consider a better, even a more current one – Nokia e63. So I waited, waited and waited. While I was waiting for manifestation, another colleague of mine who was earning 5 solid digits at the time wanted the same phone and everyday we would both check out specifications and all. Lmao. Back then, my fave colour was blue.

Few weeks before Christmas of the same year, a senior colleague who was deliberating on what to give me for Christmas casually asked what I would like. I humbly showed him my rugged phone with broken screen. The guy lolled and said he had a new phone at home and was waiting for God to show him who to give it to and while he was trying to remember the model of the phone, I jumped up from where I was sitting and said ‘if it is God then the phone will be Nokia e63’. The guy looked shocked cos that was the model of the phone.

The next day, he brought the phone for me — in my fave colour — blue. With the phone pack, headphones and battery. It will interest you to know that my colleague ‘bought his phone much later after mine’.

Bottom line is ‘Look at the birds of the air; they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father keeps feeding them. Are you not worth more than they?’   🙂

MOTIVE CHECK: What you’re doing is not half as important as your reason for doing it.

Dear Diary,

So I went to fix my nails very recently (as a lady, you know 😉 ). And as it usually happens in most cases, I always have a favorite person. You can’t blame me, I’m human. LOL.

When my nails was half done, I looked at the girl beautifying my nails – gentle, sweet and nice – and I thought it would be nice to give her a certain ‘change’.

But there was a problem, there was no way I was going to do that without everyone at the ‘nail store’ noticing. And excusing her out wasn’t optional as her mom was already giving instructions ‘Maria, hurry up. You need to attend to other customers’. LOL.

So the battle started, to give or not to give regardless of the situation. I thought if I gave her it would gladden her heart and her mom and sister (who weren’t exactly like Maria) will take a cue that it is ALWAYS good to be nice to customers. I mean GENUINELY nice. Even though the change in question was just #500. You can laugh now. LMAO.

Like I was saying, the more I meditated on the thought, the more I realized it wasn’t God’s – couldn’t have been. How did I know? The Bible says we should give in a way that our left hand would not know what our right hand was doing.

Few minutes later. She was done. I smiled. Kept my money and strolled home.

Case study 2:

Not long ago, I had an opportunity to be nice to someone who was really mean to me. Honestly, from a flesh perspective, I should have stoned the person. But with the grace of God, I did the right thing which was – to pay evil with good – and it sure felt good. Thank God for God.

What I’m trying to say: When next we decide to give someone anything, we need to stop first and do a quick motive check – is this action for show- off or is this to glorify God?

If it’s an action for show-off, then we can as well not bother. Because there’s no reward for that. If anything, we’ll only get the praises of men and that’s nothing, if you ask me.

But if it is an action of love and obedience to God’s word, then we can be assured that we’ll get a reward ‘pressed down, shaking together’ which is the real deal :).

So, when next you decide to give someone anything, please stop and do a quick motive check.

Cheers Cheers 🙂

ARINOLA, HER LOVER AND HER LORD 1

“Instead of your former shame you shall have a twofold recompense; instead of dishonor and reproach (your people) shall rejoice in their portion. Therefore in their land they shall possess double (what they had forfeited); everlasting joy shall be theirs.”

Dear diary,

I’ll tell you a secret.

2012 wasn’t too good for me. That was the year that I really understood the concept of ‘sadness’. Mehn, I was sad in every sense of the word. I was devastated. And I’ll be honest with you. I didn’t pray for the most part of the year. In my mind, what was the use? But in that same year, I understood that God meant business when He said “I’ll never leave nor forsake you’.

So, I’ll tell you some of the reasons why I was sad in 2012. I had just come out of an unfruitful relationship. And I was to represent Nigeria at Cannes Festival in France. I needed a ‘me time’ like bad and getting out of the country seemed like the best option. But my visa wasn’t granted. Guess why? I was too young and they thought I’d run away after the competition. LMAO.

Why these events were biggie to me? As a 300 level student in Unilag, I prayed to God. Though I was only taught to give my life to Christ. I decided to add another- my relationship. So I said a prayer that went something like ‘Father, I’ll like to also give my relationship to you. I know you’ll buzz me when the time is right. Until then imma just focus on other things’. I said this prayer in 2007. I started dating in 2011. Ended in 2012. In my mind, God had failed me. Not just small but ‘BIG FAIL’.

The sadness wasn’t so much about the relationship that ended. Honestly, it wasn’t. It was more because I thought God had failed. I thought He failed me. So I became faithless, literally. At that time, I almost could not believe God for safe journey from point A to Point B. It was that bad. Did you say ‘O ye of little faith?’. LOL.

Also, I was sad because I also prayed that “Father, let my husband bear a name that will remind people of you Lord’. I don’t know why I prayed that. But I was serious about it. Any guy who didn’t fit the name profile couldn’t be my husband. In my mind, the day I prayed that prayer I entered a covenant with God. I just believed that.

Then my friends started getting married. And what they say about peer pressure is very true. I was happy for them. Truly. But I was sad for myself. Like who in the world puts their relationship life in God’s hand? There and then. I concluded that God definitely had forgotten about me. I had read too much Bible stories to stop believing in Him. But I thought He just didn’t love me. Maybe I wasn’t good enough. Why else would my 2011 relationship end if not because of that?. Why else would the Consulate whatever refuse my visa even though I wanted to represent my country? Trust me. I knew the fundamentals of hosting ‘pity parties’.LMAO

I was still going to church. Listening to sermons absent-mindedly. Believing that God had forgotten me. Then I saw this “ Behold, the days are coming, says the Lord, when I shall fulfill the good promise I have made to the house of Isreal and the house of Judah” Jer 33:14. I simply read on and on. I was relieved and glad but no result just yet.

Then 2012 ended and God started dealing with me about my hopeless state of mind. How I needed to believe AGAIN. Showing me examples of people who experienced delay in the Bible and stuff like that. That took about 6 months. Cos’ I was far gone in hopelessness.

Temptation…

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When I was little, I lived in fantasy land all day all week. I dreamed of living in castles, wearing long nice dresses in a palace…and sitting all year long beside a ‘prince charming’. You can’t really blame me, I grew up watching Cinderella movies and reading Nora Roberts love series.

But then that’s not an excuse…we have to face reality.

Ladies face temptations everyday (like men too). Sometimes unfair and ridiculous. We expect to meet a ‘prince charming on a white horse’ with perfect everything. Some call this kinda guy; the perfect man.

If you are still fifteen or sixteen, then maybe you can still drool over this just for the fun of it, cos then you’re really not ready anyway.

Of course, it’s good to have expectations of the men in our lives, like him treating you like a queen, calling your name the way no one else could even if they tried.

But then, we have to understand that no one is perfect. As cliche as this sounds, its very true. We expect men to be so perfect, and when they fall short of such expectations we begin to wonder whether or not we made the right choice. And it gets even more interesting when a new guy tries to get our attention…then we begin to compare.

But I’ve learned that no one, not even me is ever going to be perfect. We will learn, we will get better, we will make mistakes, we will correct them, but perfection? No way.

Meaning, we can enjoy our lives with that mindset. Whenever someone close to us messes up, instead of screaming ‘I can’t believe you did this’, or start wondering ‘Why can’t you just be like Tyler’, we can take a long walk just to calm our nerves.

David was the man after God’s own heart and if you know anything about him, you’d know that he was far from being perfect. That’s the kind of man we need. The man who fears God. The man who has a conscious. The man who will apologize for his mistakes. The man who is talented. The man who is His Maker’s buddy. The man who respects his mother. The man who loves his family. The man who cares about others like he cares for himself. The man who will make mistakes but willing to get better through God’s help. We don’t need billions. We need true love. We need friendship not just sexual pleasures. That’s who we need not some film character who lives on the screen.

I don’t know about you, but I know I don’t want a perfect man.

All I want is the man after God’s own heart 🙂

If I were a boy…(Call this the Remix)

So like Beyonce, I have a couple of things I would do (and what I won’t do) if I were a boy. 

For instance, I wouldn’t sag my jeans for anything in the world (except for 5 billion dollars). I wouldn’t wear ear-rings even for a chance to meet President Obama. 

So what would I do? Hmm…I have a couple of things on my mind but the key thing is ‘popping the big question’ to the girl of my dreams. 

So sit tight and enjoy the ride and pulease this is not Deuces so I don’t ‘have to keep it drama free’.

Big Question

I’ll go to her house on a Saturday morning (and she’d think I’m crazy- don’t be fooled ladies like stupid things). And she’d yawn and go ‘baby, what are you doing here so early…is everything alright?’. And I’d respond…’Of course hunnay…there’s just some romantic place I can’t wait to show you…plus…never mind…’. And she’d go..’plus what? (cos we are damn too curious)’. And I’d respond…’don’t kill the surprise babe…just trust me ok’. And she’d nod ‘Ok sweets’.

Fast forward to one hour and half later cos believe me it will take a sleepy girl that long to clean up and make up. Finally she steps out and utters ‘I’m ready’ and in my mind (if I were a guy) I’d think ‘Na wa o…just to enter bathroom and wear clothes’…LOL

So we get to say, Oriental and I lead the way to the Chinese restaurant on…is it second floor or where again?. I’ll be sure we take the table overlooking the lagoon cos ladies truthfully appreciates the little things. And she’d be getting all suspicious (by now) and guessing that maybe I’m about to pop the question. If she’s the ‘sister sister’ type with a bunch of close friends, she’d hurriedly escape to the ladies to ping one or two friends ‘babes, I think he’s about to propose…’ and those ones had say something like ‘I knew it…he had be stupid not to…babes wait, I’m outside the country don’t make any plans till I get back…’ and she’d laugh and make her way back to join me ( I know these things) *holds laugh*.

Then they serve us one #3,100 meal that includes a plate of noodles (enough for one family), groundnut for second course (abi na third *I donno*), and two tiny glasses of juice. 

You see as a nice and gentle guy, I’d wait for her to finish her meal then I’d start…’Baby, you know we’ve been together for a while now…you are just the perfect girl. My friends call you ‘sent from heaven’. Some call you the ‘angel of my life’. Others go as far as confessing that oh boy ‘Ife yin gbona’. (By now, believe me she’d be blushing…)

But you see babes, I donno if I am perfect for a boyfriend anymore. And the problem is that you are too good for a girlfriend…

She’d be startled and she’d try to defend me, “my love, you are good enough for me…I don’t love you because you’re perfect. I love you because we complement each other’. I’d melt inside but I’d continue ‘Babes, you are not making this easy for me. I can’t be your boyfriend anymore. I just can’t. And I’m so so sorry’.

At this she’d think I’m crazy and maybe she’d gather her bag and ready to go. Then I’d say something like ‘baby…I’m sorry…I just don’t want you as a girlfriend anymore..’. Awww, if she’s emotional ‘she’d start to cry’. Then because I won’t like to see her cry…it’d hurt my heart…I’d quickly add…’You’re too good for a girlfriend baby. Which is why I want you to be my wife’…I wanted to make it memorable so I did the most romantic thing (you mean dumb?) thing I could think of…..

And she’d drop her bag on the floor (like Genevieve would in a Nollywood movie)…’of course baby…’ (she’d quickly grab the ring before I change my mind).

LMAO. The end..*strolls out*

 

 

LOVE DON’T COST A THING: SAYS WHO?

So, it happened that I was walking on a popular road in Lagos when a question jumped at me “why is it that, we often want the people that don’t want us?”

As simple as the question sounds, I had no ready-made answer for it, so I did the natural thing; which was to shove it aside.

Then I got to work and stumbled on a (very sad) story of a Bollywood actress who allegedly committed suicide cos her boyfriend didn’t give her what she wanted: LOVE. Then, that thought came back and instead of just answering, I decided to put my thoughts here. Better right? Thanks 🙂

So, what’s love/attraction,anyway? Is it just about having butterflies in our tummies, going to the cinema with him/her? Watching his back or whatever?

My observation about attraction is this: we get attracted to the people we want not necessarily the people we need. The people we want usually have all the interesting characteristics (or so it seems) like height, skin colour, Figure 8/6 pack, good sense of humour etc. But in most cases, there’s always an issue. That we want someone is never a guaranty that the person wants us. And believe me, that is annoying as much as it is depressing.

It forces us to meditate on thoughts like ‘does that mean, I am not good enough?’ and other degrading thoughts like that.

Joyce Meyer once reported in one of her books (according to statistics, of course) that at least 1% of the world population will not like you. The first time I saw this, I smiled then pondered on it. “Seriously who cares about 1% when a whooping 99% cares?”. But the truth is, we do care. In fact, sometimes we ignore the ones that care at the detriment of the ones that don’t  (that’s not nice :().

What we can do:

I’m not a professional in the affairs of the heart. But I do believe that we have to take responsibility for not just our actions but also our feelings. We can’t just let our emotions run in any direction it pleases, we have to take charge. I think that’s part of what it means to ‘guide your heart with all diligence’

We have to pray and trust God that He will supply our needs in His own way and time. We have a right to love, there’s a part of us that craves to be loved. Thankfully, God Himself acknowledged that ‘it is not good for man to be alone’ so our ‘love’ craving is kinda valid. And since the whole love idea was His anyway, we can like to get direction to ensure we get it right.

And when we do, OMO, there will be challenges o, but it will be sweet.

Good Luck Guys!

Good Night Khan 😦

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Wait…….

It’s funny how some of us actually laugh at the story of the Israelites as recorded in the Bible. We LOL, LMAO at how they went round the same mountains for 40 full years. We wonder how they could still doubt God despite all the miraculous signs He did for their sakes in time past. And we find their reactions after the spies were sent to spy the land even more appalling. Almost like, “these lots are just not ever going to believe”.

Well, to be honest, I used to SMH whenever I read about the reports of this unbelieving generation in the Bible. I almost used to wonder “How did You put up with this unbelieving generation?”

Then it occurred to me that we actually do the same thing sometimes. We act like them even without knowing it. We get offended by unpleasant circumstances and even go as far as turning away from God.

Back to the Israelite s
The Lord their God had promised them a land flowing with milk and honey and they were ready to take over the land except that they weren’t ready to make any effort. They wanted the land handed over to them without a fight.

Why did they rebel against God? Simple: they were “offended” by the circumstances they found themselves in. Even something as minute as bread offended them, meat, and the bitter water in Miriam etc. I’m guessing they imagined that, since God promised them, they should get an easy ride to the Promised Land and when they experienced something contrary they complained and regretted ever leaving Egypt.

Now relating this to me and you, God has promised us. In this case, our promise land doesn’t have to be physical property like the Israelite s. We know deeply in our hearts that He spoke to us but somehow things are not adding up. It seems the more you hear God the more the situation deteriorates.

And we wonder “What am I doing wrong? Did God change His mind?”.

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Well, He didn’t…

Christ was very clear in Mark 4:17 when He said that persecution will come for the word’s sake. That means that when we receive a word from God we should almost expect persecution. That word will be tested. You will face challenges that will try to convince you that it will never manifest. Voices will suggest you give up. People will try to make your life miserable (but please forgive them). And logically speaking, giving up will seem like the right thing to do because it will make sense.

But guess what? God never asked us to understand but over and over repeated “Lean on me. Trust not your own understanding”.

Let’s make up our minds
We have to be determined to dwell and meditate on the promises of God (at all times)  instead of feelings (which are ever changing) or circumstances (which are bound to change).
I will never forget this revelation about God’s promises “If God could be faithful to Abraham even after he had died by leading the Isrealites to the Promised Land, how much more will He fulfill His promise to you that still breathes?”

Don’t give doubt a chance. God hasn’t forgotten. “He remembers his covenant forever, the promise he made, for a thousand generations”. Psalm 105:8.

CELEBRATE: You’ve got hope

If you’ve ever failed before, you probably know what hopelessness feels like. Hopelessness as defined by Merriam Webster’s dictionary means: having no expectation of good or success: despairing.

Literally speaking, this means you’re discouraged to the point that you no longer expect favourable change.

Sounds familiar?

Truth is, as long as we live we will always have disappointments. We live in a world filled with imperfect people (us inclusive) and there’s no way we won’t hurt each other either knowingly or unknowingly.

Also, we dream BIG dreams. We have aspirations and most times our desires don’t follow our time tables. Again we give up and say “if it hasn’t happened then maybe it won’t happen”.

Have I ever felt hopeless before? Many times. A good example was during my NYSC days. So it happened that I was interviewed as a Copywriter in a Lagos based advertising agency months before NYSC camp in Kwara. God helped me. I passed. And my to-be creative director was very clear “we’ve to see your redeployment letter before we can take you”.

Now if you live in Nigeria, you probably understand what a herculean task that was. Anyways, three months after, I got my redeployment letter. I was ecstatic. I was over-joyed. Too happy sef.

However, all the beaming hope evaporated instantly when my to-be creative director announced that there was no space for a Corper anymore. I couldn’t believe my ears. I rebelled “but I redeployed to Lagos just so I could work here?”. Understanding my pain he responded sympathetically: “Arin, I’m sorry. Wish I could help. Maybe you should try other places”.

Honestly at that point, I remember wishing I could just fall and disappear. Can you imagine? I gathered myself and sobbed as I found my way to my house. I couldn’t even tell my mum who had previously warned me not to come to Lagos unless I had a job to do here.

So my hopelessness started. Was I depressed? Ahh, I was o. I cried. I ranted. I cried. I blamed everybody. But in the midst of my misery I heard a voice: “You know, I wouldn’t have allowed you to come to Lagos if nothing good awaits you”. I quickly recognized the voice to be God’s. I braced myself and responded: “But they said, there’s no space for a Corper. I’ve suffered”. I cried again. LOL

He repeated “I wouldn’t have let you come to Lagos if nothing good awaits you”.

With stricken face I added: “You just don’t understand, my to-be CD said there’s no place for me. My mother must not hear. There’s no way out. I’m doomed”. I cried again.

Then He said in a sweet tone that was as clear as writing on the wall: “I’m the way”

In that moment, I stopped responding, in my mind, God just didn’t get the part where I said “there was no way out”. Even the number second guy in the agency ascertained there was “no vacancy”. So all hope definitely was lost. Or so I thought?

So after that time, I would wake up and start ‘my crying sessions’. I would cry in the toilet, wash my face, come out and smile for everybody.

I was hopeless, I mean HOPELESS. Then with deep-rooted sorrow, I dragged myself to the NYSC Secretariat in Lagos and the person in charge of my case told me that if I fail to get a ‘Place of Primary Assignment’ by the following week, they would ‘throw me like a stone to Badagry to teach”. That was not what I wanted. I wanted to write brilliant ads. I had read about it. And I was ready to do it, not teach. “Do you understand me?” the official barked. Obediently, I nodded and crept out of the office.

On my way home, I made up my mind on two things: I would tell my mum about my pain. And I would officially start to look for a place to serve; anywhere would do at this point.

I cried inside as I walked the Surulere road adjoining the secretariat. Just then my phone rang. Reluctantly, I picked it and answered in a low voice without caring who the caller was “hello”. The voice on the other side sounded excited “You won’t believe this Arin, remember we said there was no space” Said my to-be CD.
Now confused “Yes”. He continued “It happened that a director here needs an assistant so we created that spot just for you. That way you can be a copywriter and still learn production things at the same time. What do you think?”

Immediately, my hopelessness disappeared and I brightened up “You created a space for me? I can’t believe this” I managed to say.

“Well, you better believe it. See you tomorrow. Yes?” He concluded.

“YES” I screamed.

Then it all came back to me “I wouldn’t have allowed you to come to Lagos if nothing good awaits you” “I’m the way”. I felt so good ‘cos finally finally I would be a copywriter. And sad because I doubted God 😦 . Afterwards, I thanked Him for His faithfulness even when I was faithless.

Now how does that concern you? My belief is, if God could do it for me, I believe He would do it for you too. He is no respecter of persons. No matter how rough the terrain you’re on is, I believe God would bring good out of it. It’s not been easy (you say), well I don’t doubt that but assuredly I believe that God could turn your bitterness into sweetness if you let Him.

One of my favorite scriptures is in Isaiah where God said “I’ve made you and therefore I will carry you”. That means God is a responsible God (I can testify to this). He made you, and He will take care of you. So I pray that “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit”.

Did I hear Amen? 🙂

Beyond Beyonce’s dazzles

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I know she’s gorgeous with a pleasant personality but believe me there are more reasons to admire her.  Do you see beyond the stunning beauty? This is what reflects when her name comes to my mind:

 

A Leader: In his book, The 21 Irrefutable laws of Leadership, John Maxell simply defined leadership as the ability to influence.

This definitely goes beyond the surface from position defining the leader to his of her ability to influence others- including those who consider themselves outside that circle.

During the days of Destiny’s Child, she took a leadership position as the lead singer. I know a lot of people would want to blotch this theory and attribute her success story to her family backing. Yes, having her father as the manager and mother as the group’s designer was undoubtedly smart, but…advertising a bad product only speeds up the time for people to know you’re no good. So she had it all along; forget the push from her family, she obviously possesses a ‘winner spirit’. What do we have today? A leader who influences people all over the world either consciously or unconsciously.

 

She’s calm: From Lindsay Lohan to Rihanna, we all know of the disturbing reports we hear about our dear celebs going ‘gaga’. But not Bey. She’s one artiste I know who has refused to let fame ruin her life. She understands the pros and cons of the game. And has never lost her cool since she came to limelight.

Smile: Why do we smile when we see a baby? Perhaps it’s because we see someone without all the defensive layers, someone whose smile for us we know to be fully genuine and free of guile. Trust me, smiling for the camera is something both Nollywood and Hollywood stars have mastered well. But it takes a truly happy person to smile and laugh in a way that affects you positively. When I look at her I see a truly happy person. This doesn’t mean she doesn’t have her own share of troubles but it does mean that she never forgets to wear her game face; and that is keeping a beautiful and happy disposition always. No wonder we love her.

Stick to your passion: Abraham Lincoln was right when he said- whatever you’re, be a good one. I agree with him because, people who truly follow their passion with unswerving determination and hard work have tangible results to show. I don’t need to tell you how passionate she is. Just pick up a couple of her videos and see for yourself.

Strategically connect on an emotional level: I was wowed when I heard this celeb sing our national anthem in a melodious tune. Of course, she got a standing ovation just for that alone. Though invited to Nigeria to perform at the This Day concert, she made out time to visit an orphanage. And you can trust the Nigerian press; the tabloids were plastered with her smiling face the following day. Now, many foreign (or international top selling) artistes have come and gone, but only a strategic emotional connection would leave a memorable imprint.

Develop yourself: Picture this scenario of a boutique owner who only stocked her shop once. People come regularly to buy from her, and she stays there without getting the latest trends and all. Before you know it, she most assuredly would run out of stock and subsequently out of business. That something worked yesterday is no guarantee that it will today. So we have to continue investing and developing our capacity as much as we can. It’s evident that the Beyonce of today is the refined version of yesterday’s. So it won’t hurt if we borrow that. Don’t you agree? 🙂

Diversify: This is another thing I admire Bey for. She’s not just a singer but an actress and other things as well. While I won’t suggest you (and me) be a jack of all trade; I also don’t think putting all our eggs in a single basket is smart enough. Diversifying is fun as long as we don’t lose focus or forget who we are.

Don’t listen to that negative voice: I believe negative thoughts comes to every human being and Bey is no exception. And I also believe she’s no entertainer of such destructive thoughts. Why? Because no one ever excelled by listening to that voice that only tells us why something cannot be done.

When I look at her I not only see a birthday mate but a phenomenal phenomenon that inspires people in her own unique way.

Who run the world?

Cheers